tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881968824873550300.post2572206959763672384..comments2014-03-10T09:58:54.152+10:30Comments on Life Coaching for Mothers: Keeping Positive when you're around NegativityAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16208321380682600396noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881968824873550300.post-68179627023579291592013-09-26T19:26:25.034+09:302013-09-26T19:26:25.034+09:30This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881968824873550300.post-51479508438717824982013-05-05T21:05:10.027+09:302013-05-05T21:05:10.027+09:30That's a nice quote too, thank you for that :)...That's a nice quote too, thank you for that :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16208321380682600396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881968824873550300.post-54620074960481136392013-05-05T21:01:31.684+09:302013-05-05T21:01:31.684+09:30Hi Darlene, big hugs to you! you are going throug...Hi Darlene, big hugs to you! you are going through a difficult time. I know first hand how frustrating it is dealing with family like this, and even with all the suggestions in my article, there are some people that just wont change. I have relatives that deny things that have happened, and say things happened that didn't and wont face their own issues and fears even when they are hurting others in the process. They do it to maintain their power because they are afraid. I have had to learn not to trust them, not to rely on them and have had to grow stronger and become more independent, so I won't need their support anymore. I have had to become more confident so their nasty comments don't affect me so badly, although they still do to a certain extent. I have accepted that they will never give me resolution for the wrongs done by them, I can only get resolution for myself by letting it go. Yes it's unfair, but to continue to hold onto that pain only hurts me, it makes no difference to them. I wish you all the best Darlene, and you know I am here for you. (hugs)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16208321380682600396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8881968824873550300.post-36397784879413479752013-05-05T13:41:42.196+09:302013-05-05T13:41:42.196+09:30Maybe its due to mourning the loss of my dad, but ...Maybe its due to mourning the loss of my dad, but I have found some people who do not want to look you in the eye - let alone get them to work on a problem (past or present) that effects not only you, but others' opinion and non-interaction with you. And, when there are family secrets still being guarded, they continue their 'avoidance-avoidance' scenario; unwilling to look at both sides of the same issue from an 'open mind point of view'. No positive attitude will ever get them to budge if doing so will compromise their position in the family where their position would be brought into question by even their immediate family. Their family that is supposed to be your family too. There is little I can do to bridge the communication gap - when the one doing the avoiding does so to 'keep in control'; while inside they are totally out of control. In a case such as this - having self-confidence is over-inflated on the part of the one doing the avoiding, and as such there is little to break the bubble around them. I have all the confidence I need and would love to work, as always, toward positive and away from anymore negative family conflict. <br /><br />"When one turns a negative into positive ... we change our little corner of the world ... and when each person is able to change a little of themselves for the good ... maybe one day, there might be a chance for real peace in everyone's little corner of the world." Vow's Verse Especially for You" 5/5/13Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04353102571582473165noreply@blogger.com